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The Value Of Alonetime

To help students see the value of alonetime.


Students today get so busy with their schedules planning out each moment of their time so that they do not have to be alone. The times they are alone, they watch TV, talk on the phone, listen to music, all to avoid the awareness that they are alone. Yet young people need to realize that value of being alone includes time for self-reflection and self-evaluation that will help them become better people in the long run.

Leader Preparation

  • Find a song that talks about loneliness to be played during session.
  • Prepare a survey that ask the young people about what they do when they are alone, and how they feel about being alone.
  • Find video “While You Were Sleeping.” Set it on 18.20 the hospital scene with Lucy and Peter (will run for 3:00 minutes).

Group Building

  • Play a game of sardines (where one person hides and the rest of the group tries to find them). At the end, discuss how it felt to be hiding all alone, or being the last one left searching. (15 minutes)
  • Divide the group into multiple groups to perform skits that demonstrate what teens do when they are alone. Give a reward for the most creative sketch. (15 minutes)

Group Presentation

Have the group fill out the survey to be used during the discussion.

  • Discuss the benefits of alonetime.
  • Self-reflection.
  • Self-examination.
  • Time to meditate.
  • Play a song illustrating how the world views being alone. Share the difference between being alone and lonely.
  • Show the video clip. Examine whether or not the scene demonstrates loneliness or being alone. Help the group understand the difference.

Group Discussion

  • What is the main difference between being alone and being lonely?
  • How do feelings of loneliness find their way in all of us?
  • How can we be alone without being lonely?
  • Why should we have alonetime?

Wrap Up

  • There is a difference between being lonely and being alone.
  • Using alonetime in a good way can have positive results.
  • Alonetime is necessary for healthy evaluation.

Evaluation and Follow Up

  • Encourage students to have an alonetime each day.
  • Suggest positive alonetime activities, such as keeping a journal, reflecting on the week, scheduling the week out, and setting goals.


    1. Part of understanding loneliness is being able to distinguish it from aloneness. Youth often subconsciously feel lonely when they are alone, and therefore avoid it. It is important to help them understand that their identities can be processed by using alonetime in healthy ways.
    2. By bringing alonetime into a positive light, young people will not feel as lonely when left alone. They will realize that they can choose to be alone, and do many positive things during this time.

Andrew Graham
© 2018 CYS

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